Yesterday, the New York Times published Mona Simpson’s eulogy for her brother, Steve Jobs. I just have to reprint a few really important quotes from it today. Steve was like a girl in the amount of time he spent talking about love. Love was his supreme virtue, his god of gods. He tracked and worried about the romantic lives of the people working with him. I remember when he phoned the day...
Why Be Married? For the Hot Water
As you might have heard, the northeastern U.S. got hit with a record-breaking October snowstorm yesterday. We were right in its path. And even though I usually overprepare for hurricanes, I didn’t do much about this freak storm, because I was supposed to pick up my mother at the airport. Instead of preparing the house, I was digging out my car. Online weather reports kept telling me it was...
Why Be Married? For a 70th Anniversary
A New Zealand couple, Margaret and Allan Alexander, celebrated their 70 wedding anniversary on October 4th. Both are in their 90s. They met in 1937 and married in 1941. A month after marrying, Allan went off to fight in WWII. A bomber pilot stationed in England, he was unable to return home for three long years. It was a huge test for a new marriage, one faced by many couples who married in 1941...
Why Be Married? So Your Heart Bypass Lasts
Psychologist and relationship researcher Harry Reis says: “Getting relationships right is something that people ought to pay attention to, because it is significant.” The University of Rochester professor and nursing professor Kathy King asked 225 heart bypass surgery survivors two simple questions a year after surgery: Are you married? Do you feel happily married compared to most...
Why Be Married? Because Love Matters
Paul McCartney married Nancy Shevel yesterday. It’s got me singing All You Need is Love again today, one of the world’s (and the Beatles’) most touching songs. “All you need is love. All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.” And what do we need it for? To become our best selves. “Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time. It’s...