Not all married couples celebrate Valentine’s Day. If you’re in one that does, or if your wife or husband could use a little boost, here are some tips. Don’t assume your spouse enjoys what anyone else does. Pay attention to what he or she gives you on this love-remembrance day and what melts his or her heart on other days. Consider Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages...
The best way to handle a disagreement is to avoid it. If your spouse steals the covers or if you tend to move around a lot in your sleep: Put one bottom sheet on the bed. Put two top sheets on, one on each half. Fold two large ones into rectangles or triangles, depending on how you two share the bed. Or get two twin sheets. Do the same with blankets or comforters or duvets. If you worry about...
If your otherwise loving marriage has been a bit disappointing lately, try this: share wishes, not complaints. A wish is an opportunity for your spouse to earn that delicious feeling of acting lovingly, knowing it will be received well. You get no guarantee that they’ll notice the opportunity or act on it, because you might not be the only partner nursing a disappointment. But it’s...
I thought today I might review some of the well-established basics for a healthy marriage. 1. No Terrorism Never, ever cause your spouse physical harm or fear to get your way. No choking, shooting, hitting, punching, pinching, imprisonment, abandonment, or destitution. And no threats of any of these, either. Everyone deserves to feel safe in their own home and in their marriage. 2. Avoid...
June brings lots of anniversaries. If you’re wondering how to let your husband or wife feel your love, I want to help. Q. If I take my wife away for a just-us weekend, do I also need an anniversary gift? A. Etiquette does not apply to a marriage. Neither does the opinion of any other woman you know or even a survey of 3,057 women you did not marry. All that matters is this: does your wife...
