The challenges identified by divorced relationship columnist Anthony D’Ambrosio in The Asbury Park Press and reprinted in USA Today this week are really not very different from the challenges earlier generations have faced. Learn to deal with them, and you can enjoy being married, even now. Challenge #1: When we’re bombarded with “half-naked” photos online and compare our...
If you’ve read this blog for a while, you know I have no desire to help you win Best Husband or Best Wife of the Year awards. All I want is for you to enjoy being married. And this is not going to happen by shaming your husband or wife. Shaming a young dog works pretty well. The dog will recognize you as the Alpha in the house, look down at the floor with an impressive look of penitence...
It is so easy to get caught up in all our must-do’s and ought-to-do’s, but these stresses make it harder to feel loved. And when we don’t feel loved, loving a spouse or life partner can feel like work. When your relationship feels like work, it’s time to be imperfect and playful again. Set some time to let some responsibilities go. Cut out some of the stress. Hang up that...
I might have missed Glen Campbell’s song “I’m Not Gonna Miss You” if I had not watched the Oscars® last night. I had not heard it was nominated or that it won a Grammy. I did not know about the documentary about his life with Alzheimer’s, the one he wrote it for, which aired right near me a few weeks ago. But then I heard Tim McGraw sing it, and I hurried...
My grandfather sold a lot of engagement rings over his 50+ years at Tiffany’s flagship store on Fifth Avenue in New York City. I’m sure he would have agreed “A diamond is forever,” a De Beers slogan introduced during the Great Depression, a tough time to sell jewelry. Diamond engagement rings were uncommon then, but so were divorces. If “a marriage is forever”...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
