Thanks to Gary Chapman’s bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages, lots of us are much more aware of our own. Mine is definitely gifts. But lately, I’ve been thinking about gifts. I am married to someone who doesn’t “get” gifts. Giving them feels like a test to him and receiving them often requires lying to someone he loves about the pleasure he’s not feeling...
I am trying to get caught up this week on all your recent comments and questions, dear readers. This is one that came in last week and really hit a nerve: I’ve been married for 15 yr, have three kids ages 4,8,12. I am seriously considering divorce. My husband is a compulsive liar with ADHD. He is a good/kind person but lies about anything from returning a book to the library to not paying...
“Today I started loving you again.” — Merle Haggard Somehow I ran out of things to say on this blog for a while. I don’t know how it happened after so many years. But I am back, and I want to help you Enjoy Being Married. I am just back from a Sunday afternoon Suzy Bogguss concert at our local cultural center, a repurposed 1800’s white wooden church with a tall...
You’re married. Usually, you’re quite grateful for your husband. Then he says something that hurts like a kick to the gut. For example, from one self-employed husband whose career is accelerating to his self-employed wife, still launching a business she started well after his: He: I could use some help this afternoon. I’m under a deadline, and I really need an extra pair of...
I just read an interview of Ashley Madison’s founder. It’s a website for those who decide to cheat on their spouses but can’t find a partner on their own. I had long wondered about the brand name, which seems aimed at women, not men. Indeed, it is. The UK version of the site has more than 825,000 members, mainly married women aged between 38 and 42. “Our brand really...
