2 October Date Night Ideas


You can’t always go out for pizza and a movie, can you? Here are two more ideas for spending time together as a married couple. Miss the cool fall weather from where you grew up? Pack some soup, some bread, and some coffee or hot cider and head for your nearest ice skating rink. Don’t forget your mittens. Get some exercise on skates, then open your cool-weather feast at a table or on...

What If You Don’t Marry Your Soul Mate?


When ecstatic people tell you they have found their soul mate, you may well wonder if you could do better than the person you fell in love with. I believe the answer is no. The difference between a soul mate and another beloved is a feeling of great similarity and agreement, a meshing of values, interests, and approaches to life. But people are people. Interests change, values change, approaches...

Did You Marry the Wrong Person?


During an unhappy stretch in a marriage or life partnership, you may wonder if you chose the wrong person. You Probably Chose the Wrong Person If: Your mate is vicious His or her morals require that you ignore your own He or she cannot find the strength to fight or seek treatment for long-lasting or life-threatening depression, mania, addiction, hallucinations, or other physical or mental...

Updating Assume Love


I added some more categories to this blog today, to make it easier for you to find older posts about my main three marriage-fixing techniques, Assume Love, Expect Love, and Find Third Alternatives. All of these were previously lumped together under the How to Assume Love category. I hope you find the change helpful.

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Time Out


Assume Love will be offline for a while between 11 pm EDT Tuesday (6/15/2010) and 9 am EDT Wednesday (6/17/2010). Time for a bit of maintenance. Sorry for the inconvenience.

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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