I won’t pretend I know what God expects of us married folks, but I like to hear what others believe about this. So, back in August, I listened to a webinar on the subject by Ustadha Hedaya Hartford. It was an intro to an 11-week webinar course on The Successful Islamic Marriage. Unfortunately, when I went to publish this review a day after writing it, everything I had written had vanished...
Sure, they are ugly. Stinky, too. And you might be right that this is not where they belong. You could probably take a poll of other people to prove you’re right.
But none of this would make you happier. Want to be happier? Take 15 extra seconds when you enter a room to remove any socks from the floor Then thank your guy or gal for your hippopotamus-free home.
Matt asked a very interesting question in his comment on Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems: What happens when other problems get in the way of the marriage and one spouse is better at dealing with them than the other? Marriage problems are the ones that end if your spouse suddenly dies. They are problems between the two of you, like whether 4 am sex is enjoyable or not and whether...
I learned this the hard way. My first husband dropped dead with no warning when he was just 35, making it quite clear how few of the problems affecting the two of us were marriage problems. What’s the difference? The marriage problems go away when your marriage partner dies or after all the dust settles from your divorce. The others, the ones that remain, were never about your marriage. Not...
Please ignore this blog post if you live with a violent partner or one who has ever tried to control you by harming you physically, financially, or emotionally and has not successfully treated the problem underlying this behavior. If this is you, please seek help from others capable of controlling that behavior or keeping it at a safe distance from you and your children. For the rest of us, here...
