Sure, they are ugly. Stinky, too. And you might be right that this is not where they belong. You could probably take a poll of other people to prove you’re right.
But none of this would make you happier. Want to be happier? Take 15 extra seconds when you enter a room to remove any socks from the floor Then thank your guy or gal for your hippopotamus-free home.
Matt asked a very interesting question in his comment on Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems: What happens when other problems get in the way of the marriage and one spouse is better at dealing with them than the other? Marriage problems are the ones that end if your spouse suddenly dies. They are problems between the two of you, like whether 4 am sex is enjoyable or not and whether...
I learned this the hard way. My first husband dropped dead with no warning when he was just 35, making it quite clear how few of the problems affecting the two of us were marriage problems. What’s the difference? The marriage problems go away when your marriage partner dies or after all the dust settles from your divorce. The others, the ones that remain, were never about your marriage. Not...
Please ignore this blog post if you live with a violent partner or one who has ever tried to control you by harming you physically, financially, or emotionally and has not successfully treated the problem underlying this behavior. If this is you, please seek help from others capable of controlling that behavior or keeping it at a safe distance from you and your children. For the rest of us, here...
Depression happens. Unless you’re Amish, it very likely you know someone in its grip right now. You may even know firsthand what a major depressive episode or chronic depression feels like. When it hits the person you love and pledged your life to, it can be so very frustrating. You want to help, but to date no one has demonstrated that cajoling or entertaining reduces the duration or depth...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
