CategoryMarriage problems

Growing Up without Dad


I have no doubt that there are children who are much better off with their fathers out of the house. Children cannot protect themselves from violence, sexual predation, or the carelessness and neglect of some alcoholic or drug addicted fathers. I salute the mothers who take on the difficult work of raising children alone when this is the case and the selflessness of the step dads who assist some...

God and Your Marriage


I won’t pretend I know what God expects of us married folks, but I like to hear what others believe about this. So, back in August, I listened to a webinar on the subject by Ustadha Hedaya Hartford. It was an intro to an 11-week webinar course on The Successful Islamic Marriage. Unfortunately, when I went to publish this review a day after writing it, everything I had written had vanished...

Socks on the Floor


Sure, they are ugly. Stinky, too. And you might be right that this is not where they belong. You could probably take a poll of other people to prove you’re right.
But none of this would make you happier. Want to be happier? Take 15 extra seconds when you enter a room to remove any socks from the floor Then thank your guy or gal for your hippopotamus-free home.

How to Tackle Life’s Problems Together


Matt asked a very interesting question in his comment on Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems: What happens when other problems get in the way of the marriage and one spouse is better at dealing with them than the other? Marriage problems are the ones that end if your spouse suddenly dies. They are problems between the two of you, like whether 4 am sex is enjoyable or not and whether...

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Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems


I learned this the hard way. My first husband dropped dead with no warning when he was just 35, making it quite clear how few of the problems affecting the two of us were marriage problems. What’s the difference? The marriage problems go away when your marriage partner dies or after all the dust settles from your divorce. The others, the ones that remain, were never about your marriage. Not...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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