CategoryMarriage problems

When Will You Be Home?


When KT married Ben last year, she loved to get a call from him during her workday. She’d look forward to 5:30, when she’d arrive home to a big hug and a huge smile. With her new job, she can’t count on leaving as early. She’s often rushing to get out of the office, then racing through traffic only to get home closer to 6:00, when she gets only Ben’s icy greeting...

Dirty Dishes and Open Toothpaste Tubes


We’ve all got our pet peeves when living with someone else, and spouses get a special break only for the first few months. What should you do when you encounter dirty dishes in the sink, an open toothpaste tube on the sink, wet bathroom floors, sweat socks in the dining room, spice bottles lined up alphabetically instead of by height and all the rest of the annoying things that real people...

Loves Me… Loves Me Not…


This website is for anyone who’s ever wondered if their husband, wife, or life partner really meant that “I do” or whether they are still loved today. It’s for everyone who’s found a partner but still battles with unmet needs, unresolved conflicts, and questions of what’s fair and what’s not. I learned a few things when I lost my first husband. First...

Four Steps to Assume Love


Here’s how you Assume Love. Consider doing it every time your spouse does something or fails to do something and you feel anger, resentment, hurt, fear, shame, frustration, or superiority taking hold of your emotions: Assume you are completely loved by a wonderful person. Attempt to explain how such a person might come to do what just happened. If you can think of one or more explanations...

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I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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