CategoryHow to Assume Love

Changing Yourself


If you were to change yourself in some way, to face life differently, to develop a new habit or build a character strength, how would you want to do it? Would you prefer your mate tell you what he or she dislikes about you and the things you do so you can fix them? Or would you prefer to hear about you at your best and work to live up to your reputation? There is a good chance your husband, wife...

Changing Your Spouse


It’s very difficult to change another person’s behavior. And it is next to impossible when done through criticism instead of agreement. If you look carefully, though, you may discover some very annoying things are done not to annoy you but to be with you. Or to love you the way he or she wants to be loved. Or to cope with stress that comes from earning money to share with you or doing...

Are You Doing What You Love?


Barbara Sher has been inspiring people for most of my adult life to do what they love. She’s helped them tap into their talents and passions. She’s helped them get around a million obstacles. She’s told them not to choose between the many things that thrill them, but to use her tricks to fit them all into one lifetime. She’s even helped them figure out what they love doing...

The Alcohol Explanation


When you Assume Love and ask how a truly loving husband, wife, or life partner could say those words, spend that money, or get that violent, beware of the alcohol explanation. Many people are quicker to anger and less diplomatic in their ways of expressing it when they drink. Most, however, cannot violate their own moral code even when drunk. If they would protect your college fund or your...

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Burnt Peas


How easy it is to get bent out of shape over burnt peas. There you are, waiting for your dinner, and suddenly you smell them scorching. Once even one is scorched, it’s pretty much too late to rescue them. And now the giant wheel of fortune begins its wild spin. Where will it land for you? I feel so bad for my mate. What an awful, last-minute thing to happen while cooking dinner. Oy! How...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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