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Changing Your Spouse

It's very difficult to change another person's behavior. And it is next to impossible when done through criticism instead of agreement.

If you look carefully, though, you may discover some very annoying things are done not to annoy you but to be with you. Or to love you the way he or she wants to be loved. Or to cope with stress that comes from earning money to share with you or doing things for you that you cannot do for yourself.

If you focus on the love, you are a lot more likely to change your spouse. We all love to love someone who notices how much we love them.


Thank you for the timely reminder to look carefully at certain things my spouse does, to focus on the love and assume love. It makes so much sense as I read it here and when I think about it. Sometimes, though, it takes my utmost concentration to put it into practice. Your reminders give my assume love mindset a helping hand.

Thank you, Lilian!

Words of wisdom! Thank you Lilian!

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