It seems a lot of people get married and then wonder if they married the wrong person. If you are still single and looking, you might wonder how to avoid marrying the wrong person, too. The right person never uses force or emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants from you. The right person, like all the wrong people, is not likely to change in the ways you imagine or plan. If...
When you get married… You try to be the person you think a wife or husband should be. Your spouse tries to be the person he or she thinks a wife or husband should be. They seldom match up with what the other expected. Neither of you keeps trying quite so hard without positive feedback. Each of you may resort to nagging to get what you expect or withdrawal to avoid the pain of not getting it...
You date one person, but you marry a bunch. As you begin dating, you might want to inquire about all the others. Here are some of the extra people you acquire when you marry the man or woman you fell in love with and what to do about them after the wedding. Your spouse’s children They may someday view you as their bonus mom or dad, maybe even their “real” mom or dad, thanks to...
It seems the new question everyone wants an answer to before they marry is whether they can share a home without strife. While it is an interesting question, it hardly seems worth two or three years of sharing a home before agreeing to marry. Learning to Find Third Alternatives can get you through sharing a home with almost anyone you respect and care about. Here are the three questions I...
When you get married, pay close attention to all that is good and right about the person you choose. Pay close attention to the ways this wonderful man or woman makes you feel great about life, about love, and about yourself. Your new husband or wife will someday reveal weaknesses, envy, selfishness under stress. Those will be temporary. The goodness, the integrity, the honesty, the justice, the...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
