Thinking of getting married? Probably the least useful thing to learn about him or her is how well you share a bathroom or kitchen. Here are some more useful things to find out. What is his or her Love Language? How comfortable are you using it? What are his or her 4 or 5 top Character Strengths? Encouraging the use of these strengths in work and play will provide lots of opportunities for...
It seems a lot of people get married and then wonder if they married the wrong person. If you are still single and looking, you might wonder how to avoid marrying the wrong person, too. The right person never uses force or emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants from you. The right person, like all the wrong people, is not likely to change in the ways you imagine or plan. If...
When you get married… You try to be the person you think a wife or husband should be. Your spouse tries to be the person he or she thinks a wife or husband should be. They seldom match up with what the other expected. Neither of you keeps trying quite so hard without positive feedback. Each of you may resort to nagging to get what you expect or withdrawal to avoid the pain of not getting it...
You date one person, but you marry a bunch. As you begin dating, you might want to inquire about all the others. Here are some of the extra people you acquire when you marry the man or woman you fell in love with and what to do about them after the wedding. Your spouse’s children They may someday view you as their bonus mom or dad, maybe even their “real” mom or dad, thanks to...
It seems the new question everyone wants an answer to before they marry is whether they can share a home without strife. While it is an interesting question, it hardly seems worth two or three years of sharing a home before agreeing to marry. Learning to Find Third Alternatives can get you through sharing a home with almost anyone you respect and care about. Here are the three questions I...
