CategoryGetting married

What Does It Mean to Be Married?


So many of us today drift into marriage. We date. We move in together. We make a baby. Then we marry. Or we make a baby, so we move in together and, if we can find the time, date, hoping to kindle enough of a fire to want to marry. Or it’s our second time around. We will make no more babies. We date. We live together to save time or money. Eventually we marry because one or both grow tired...

Marrying for Life


Choosing your someone to live with or marry? Never been married before? Lots of juicy new data out to help you choose. It should be heartening to those recently married and wondering if they will make it through their current disappointment or fight, too. You have probably been hearing news clips about the report on first marriages that was released last week. The data were collected from 2006...

How to Have a Successful Marriage


I have to applaud Long Island Bride and Groom magazine. In with all the gorgeous gowns and wonderful venues on New York’s Long Island, they offered about-to-be-weds tips for continued success after the wedding. The article, Happily Ever After: How to Have a Successful Marriage, appears in their February 2012 edition (page 359 in print, 363 online). They solicited critical items to discuss...

5 Helpful Things to Discover Before You Marry


Thinking of getting married? Probably the least useful thing to learn about him or her is how well you share a bathroom or kitchen. Here are some more useful things to find out. What is his or her Love Language? How comfortable are you using it? What are his or her 4 or 5 top Character Strengths? Encouraging the use of these strengths in work and play will provide lots of opportunities for...

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How to Avoid Marrying the Wrong Person


It seems a lot of people get married and then wonder if they married the wrong person. If you are still single and looking, you might wonder how to avoid marrying the wrong person, too. The right person never uses force or emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants from you. The right person, like all the wrong people, is not likely to change in the ways you imagine or plan. If...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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