Because I went to a university with a 15:1 male-to-female ratio and found myself a widow at age 34, I have a little experience with dating. One big mistake people make while dating, assuming their goal is to find and marry a great guy or gal, is trying to duck being judged. They do what they believe others want or expect, hoping to be selected as good enough to commit to. They fear rejection. All...
If you are not yet married but would like to be, you may wonder if you now date or live with “the one” you should marry or, if not, how to spot this perfect partner. I received an email recently from someone wondering about this, too. Who is Your Perfect Partner? Your perfect partner adds something extra to your good enough life. He or she is not responsible for making it good enough...
In answer to a question posed to me today, I think people should know 3 things before they marry: How to find a third alternative to any disagreement, an option that gives each party all they were looking for in their first suggestion without the drawbacks of the other person’s first suggestion, instead of arguing. That what you can expect from marriage is love, not any particular sign of...
For Amna Ahmad, who asked tonight on Twitter whether Assume Love has anything for the “non-married and looking,” here are a few tips. Don’t try to sell anyone on commitment. Date people who are ready for it. If your date invents you (praising you for traits you may even possess but have not yet revealed), tells you in the first or second encounter he or she might move far away...
Today is this blog’s fifth anniversary, a huge occasion for me. I am so grateful to you for being a part of it. On this wonderful day, I also want to say Happy Anniversary to Winnie and Marshall Kuykendall of Lordsburg, NM. Today is their 82nd wedding anniversary. Their only child, a daughter, has been married for 56 years. Now, as Worldwide Marriage Encounter’s poster children for...
