I’m Not Happy


“I’m not happy.” How awful to realize this, awful enough to make you want to make a big change, like leaving the person you imagined could make you happy for the rest of your life. “I’m scared silly” would be different. So would “I’m really angry, and I’m not going to take it any more.” “Not happy” carries no danger, no...

Are You Being Taken Advantage Of?


Feel like you’ve got too much cooking and cleaning to do? Too much grass to mow? Too many chins to wipe? Too much responsibility for bringing in income? Wishing your husband or wife would pick up more of the load? There are two ways to split responsibility with another adult. One is to divide it all in half. This is next to impossible, as the two of you look at the same situation and see...

10 Things You Should Not Expect from Your Spouse


In tonight’s Enjoy Being Married teleclass, I’ll be talking about how to get more of your needs met (without cheating). Key to this is knowing what’s reasonable to expect from your husband or wife and what’s not. Here are ten things you should not expect: Vacations that involve being in a bass boat at dawn Weekly tile grout scrubbing Even one foot rub A clean diaper on the...

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How Compatible Do Couples Need to Be?


When you’re upset about any other part of life with your husband, wife, or life partner, it’s likely you will start noticing your differences, too. How compatible do you need to be to keep the relationship going? Compatibility has two sides: propriety and enthusiasms. Marry someone whose ideas of what’s proper and what’s not differ wildly from yours and you’ll...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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