Which of these would you most appreciate from your husband or wife?
An hour-long massage
A dreaded chore done for you
A gift to use in one of your hobbies
A very special date night together
A heartfelt love letter or song
Many thanks to my son for spotting this and to xkcd.com for letting me share it with you.
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