Launching a Business Without Killing Your Marriage


Gene Marks’ NY Times blog on the art of running a small business included two items that caught my attention yesterday. The first is a great quote from Penelope Trunk in Venture Beat: “The dirty secret about start-up founders is they can’t keep marriages together. Part of the reason for this is they are crazy to begin with. And part of the reason is that you have to be married...

3 Ways to Get Your Wife’s Respect


Want more respect from the woman you married? These should help. Be you, at your best. Find more ways to use your greatest strengths (creativity, humility, generosity, gratitude, perseverance, curiosity, social intelligence, integrity, leadership, perspective, bravery, etc.) when you are with her. Show more affection. Without affection, women have a hard time paying attention to anything else...

When Your Wife Criticizes Your Driving


Does your wife caution you to slow down, pass that car, take a different route, keep up with traffic, stop riding that bumper? Does she wince, grab the dashboard, brace her feet, check the side mirror? And does it make you wonder why in the world she agreed to marry someone she trusts so little? Does it make you feel like a kid with a learner’s permit again? Especially if you have been...

How to Keep Your Husband or Wife from Cheating


Lots of married people, men and women, cheat. Some do it repeatedly, believing they are somehow entitled to do so. Others do it once, looking for emotional or sexual relief when there is great tension in their marriage. This second group usually decides never to try that again, whether they get caught or not. Cheating is contagious. Research shows that those who know someone who has cheated are...

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What to Do When You Stop Loving


Last March, I answered this question on Quora: If you are married with a kid, but you and your wife do not love each other, what should you do? My answer: Love your kid’s mother. It’s the greatest gift you could ever give your child. Regardless of your emotions toward her, be as generous, forgiving, caring, brave, fair, trustworthy, nurturing, helpful, complimentary, and welcoming as...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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