Porn is a problem in many marriages. In an earlier post, I referred to several resources from an expert on the subject, Dr. Mark Laaser. The comments on that post are also worth reading. If porn is an issue in your marriage, I hope you will check it out. A lot of women take offense at porn. It makes them question their husbands’ respect and love for them. It feels like infidelity to them...
How easy it is to get bent out of shape over burnt peas. There you are, waiting for your dinner, and suddenly you smell them scorching. Once even one is scorched, it’s pretty much too late to rescue them. And now the giant wheel of fortune begins its wild spin. Where will it land for you? I feel so bad for my mate. What an awful, last-minute thing to happen while cooking dinner. Oy! How...
If you changed your definition of fair, how would it change your marriage? What if you decided dish washing, lawn mowing, meal preparation, shopping, laundry folding, and oil changing don’t belong in your definition of fair? Without them, how fair is your marriage? What if you decided earning money has nothing to do with how fair your marriage is? Disregarding your incomes, your efforts to...
Ever feel so angry you want to break something or hurt someone? When you’re married to someone you love, you can balance your anger against your desire to protect your spouse. It makes it easier to anchor yourself instead of drifting on the currents of your anger. Ever feel like walking away from your job and your debts rather than do the hard work of making things right again? Being...
On the brink of throwing in the towel and filing for divorce? Diane Sollee of Smart Marriages (website of the Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education) has a page on what to expect and what else to try first. I highly recommend it. If,instead, your spouse is proposing divorce, she has another great page of resources for fighting a divorce. There are some irreparable marriages out...
