What a marvelous comment I received this afternoon! It came in reply to a recent post, When to Fix a Failing Marriage. This is definitely one worth fixing. Here is the comment. I love it because it has so many of the elements of what I have heard from both men and women when their spouse suddenly gets restless or angry. My wife told me 10 weeks ago that she loves me but she’s not in love...
Threat Number 1: You choose a partner who believes it is ever (ever!) okay to threaten, endanger, or harm you when frustrated or angry. Threat Number 2: You fail to deal with your own problems, limitations, or disappointments because you believe your spouse ought to deal with them, help you deal with them, or at least give his or her assent. You will know instantly if Threat Number 1 hits you...
To stay on top of developments in marriage and divorce law, policies, education, and research, I monitor a bunch of Google alerts daily. As a result, I am almost certain to hear about every celebrity break-up. This week, it is Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli. They are divorcing. Been together long enough to leave three young daughters to deal with what they could not fix. Sixteen years, eleven...
I have been writing Assume Love for a little more than six years now. That is a lot of blog posts. In case you missed them, these are some of the ones I am proudest of. Earthquakes and Extramarital Affairs – Trusting the person you married, dealing with an affair if one happens (March 2011) Four Steps to Assume Love – One incredibly powerful technique for anyone who wants a happier...
Choosing your someone to live with or marry? Never been married before? Lots of juicy new data out to help you choose. It should be heartening to those recently married and wondering if they will make it through their current disappointment or fight, too. You have probably been hearing news clips about the report on first marriages that was released last week. The data were collected from 2006...
