Congratulations on your 17+ years of marriage and on your decision, almost six months after filing, to call off your divorce. May you find ways to forgive each other and to find new roles in each other’s lives. Not easy for anyone, surely much harder for those who must live their lives in public. May others on the verge of divorce find courage and inspiration in your decision. And may you...
When I get upset with my husband, I sometimes come to Assume Love to remember what I’m supposed to do about it. Here are two of the quotes I find very helpful. Twice now, I have been blessed to have love in my life. Love includes some side benefits that lighten the load of living, but when we specify which ones with our expectations, I’ve learned we drive away the love. [August 2006]...
Agi Smith is interviewing folks going through divorce for the Huffington Post. Yesterday’s interview was with a NJ man who now must fly to another state every other weekend to maintain a relationship with his 10-year-old son. He says he absolutely, absolutely needs love in his life but oddly misses nothing about his marriage except what his son has lost. What he claims to like best about...
When a marriage grows distant or unsatisfying, one partner or the other may ask, “Should I stay for the kids?” Sure. If you stay married for the sake of your children, they will avoid the overscheduled life of a child of divorce. They will find more money in their education account or better food on the table thanks to the economies of a shared household. And they will probably manage...
Do you cry at sad movies? In an odd series of scientific studies in Israel, scientists have discovered that a chemical in women’s sad tears literally turns men off. The women’s tears were collected while watching sad movies. Men were then given tears or saline solution to smell. Neither they nor the researcher applying the little pads to their upper lips knew which they got. The men...
