I received a lengthy comment today from a reader dealing with her husband’s viewing of porn on the internet. I suggested looking up Mark Laaser, Phd, who has written some helpful stuff on the subject after finding himself getting sucked into it. One of his books is The Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction..You can see him in this Smart Marriages 2010...
When married life is frustrating, divorce can seem like the only way out. But it is well worth asking, “Will divorce fix the problem?” One celebrity reporter, certain that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith are on their way to divorce, writes in The Daily Beast: Sources close to the power couple say both Will and his actress wife have strong personalities that have clashed one too many...
Would a stranger observing the two of you call your marriage loud or quiet? Loud is just fine if every angry outburst is matched with at least five exuberant or encouraging ones. How can you go from angry to encouraging? Assume Love. Quiet is just fine if it’s shared intimacy and respect, rather than passive-aggressive resentment. How can you go from hurt to grateful? Expect Love. And how...
The Situation You are preparing dinner. As you pull out the chicken and vegetables, you do a quick check for other ingredients you will need. Eggs? Check. Milk? Check. Mustard? Check. Everything’s there. You cut up the chicken and vegetables while the oven heats up. You dump the dry ingredients for dumplings in the bowl, then reach for the milk. Your heart sinks as you lift it. You pour it...
Parenting disagreements can be some of the toughest. When your child makes a request and one of you wants to say yes, but the other thinks yes would be a bad idea, you really need a Third Alternative. You need one because you are in danger of planting your feet and holding your ground to protect your child at the possible expense of your marriage. Concern for a child motivates immediate action...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
