CategoryHow to Expect Love

Sloppy Spouses


Sloppy is not really a lifestyle anyone aspires to. It just happens, usually while we’re feeling down or while we’re totally engaged with the rest of life. Sloppy dressing, sloppy piles of unfinished business, sloppy storage of clothes and dishes awaiting washing can drive a more organized partner — or one more attuned to physical beauty — up the wall. If you are that...

I Wish My Spouse Would Assume Love


One thing greatly discouraged me about my training as a marriage educator. Most of the exercises and techniques were for becoming a better spouse. I see the same thing in most books about marriage. When a person is unhappy with their marriage, becoming a better spouse is difficult and kind of risky. Will trying something new cause our partner to do anything that will make us any happier? This is...

Three Ways to Feel More Respected


Here are three ways to notice a little more of the respect your spouse or life partner holds for you: Listen to what he or she reports to you about other couples. Negative comments about the abilities or reliability of friends’ mates probably mean yours are more impressive to your mate. Look beyond the words. Sure, driving tips sound like your driving skills are not respected, but when...

Endearing You


Do you know what makes you endearing to your husband, wife, or life partner? If you do, consider yourself extremely blessed. You know how to pull the two of you closer when you begin to drift apart. (And it’s so very much not, “We need to have a talk.”) If you don’t know what makes you endearing, why not make it your project for the month of October to find out? Think back...

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3 Things to Remember When Marriage Seems Hard


Think there’s something terribly wrong with your non-abusive marriage? Change that thought before it ruins a perfectly good day. Divorce does not magically make money troubles go away. In fact, it usually increases your total expenses and makes it harder to earn what you earn. Marriage counseling also costs money and doesn’t make more for you. And you don’t need to divorce to...

Patty Newbold

I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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