It’s the thought that counts. The thought can make your marriage happy or miserable. Miserable: Another freakin’ hike through the wildflower preserve, just to keep her in a decent mood. Happy: Feels good to have her hand in mine. I don’t know what she sees in this place, but look at that happy crinkle in her eyes. I think I’ll kiss her every time we pass a black-eyed Susan...
This summer’s Enjoy Being Married teleclasses are all scheduled now, and we have some really great topics coming up: Less Drama, More Wow! (June 23) If Momma Ain’t Happy…(July 7) Oxytocin and Your Marriage (July 21) Ouch! That Stings! (August 11) Keeping Your Marriage Strong When Money Gets Tight (September 8) Going After Your Dreams, Even the Ones You Don’t Share...
What you expect from your marriage has a lot to do with how much you will enjoy it. Expect your personal mind-picture of the perfect marriage and find yourself frequently and sorely disappointed. Expect “growth” from the person you actually married into the person you think your mate could become and find yourself in a non-stop battle. Expect supportive words from a gift-giver, acts...
How much easier to love someone you see infrequently and only for special occasions: dinners, shows, trips to the beach. Gratitude, respect, patience, generosity? You get them all, simply because your partner prepares for the event, expects a good time, and knows this might be his or her last time with you if things do not go well. Dating has a lot going for it. Of course, your partner expects...
Barbara Sher has me thinking about a marriage retreat. The first, most obvious kind, is a couples retreat. Hold it in some quaint little out-of-the-way town with great bed and breakfasts or a country inn. Or on a warm and sunny island south of here. But I don’t do couples work. I do the-marriage-inside-your-head work. Make yourself happier and enjoy your marriage more work. Aha moment work...
