I have two this year: Find more creative Third Alternatives when we disagree – We disagree a lot, so I will have lots of opportunity here. A good Third Alternative combines delighting my husband with getting what I want, always a pure delight. I intend to reach out to my creative friends and my readers to come up with even better alternative whenever we think there are just two and we...
The week leading up to Valentine’s Day (Sunday, February 14, 2010) is Marriage Week. Does your community group, mosque, church, temple, or synagogue have something planned? It might make the difference between a couple giving up on each other and a family staying together, growing strong. The Smart Marriages website lists lots of Marriage Week ideas. How about sponsoring a college...
Steven Stosny gets it. His take on resolving marriage battles changes everything, whether your marriage is abusive or just stressed out. In Dr. Stosny’s November 30th blog post, he looked at our two options for dealing with this pair of competing thoughts (cognitive dissonance), so common for us married folks: “I am a loving and compassionate person. Yet I am not loving and...
One of my favorite sayings (I think it comes from Alcoholics Anonymous) is this: “An expectation is a premeditated resentment.” December is a big month for mistaken expectations, especially for a new couple or for one whose circumstances have changed this year. Do you want to spend this month angry about the help you expected, the gifts you expected, the attendance at family or social...
Want to know what I really like about this advice I give you and usually follow myself, to Assume Love? It leads to some really amazing discoveries. The one I write about in today’s My Husband Made Me Eat It column at Second Helping Online is that the failure to compliment can be a great way to show love.
Are you making any great discoveries like this from assuming love in your own marriage?
