It is so easy to get caught up in all our must-do’s and ought-to-do’s, but these stresses make it harder to feel loved. And when we don’t feel loved, loving a spouse or life partner can feel like work. When your relationship feels like work, it’s time to be imperfect and playful again. Set some time to let some responsibilities go. Cut out some of the stress. Hang up that...
I might have missed Glen Campbell’s song “I’m Not Gonna Miss You” if I had not watched the Oscars® last night. I had not heard it was nominated or that it won a Grammy. I did not know about the documentary about his life with Alzheimer’s, the one he wrote it for, which aired right near me a few weeks ago. But then I heard Tim McGraw sing it, and I hurried...
My grandfather sold a lot of engagement rings over his 50+ years at Tiffany’s flagship store on Fifth Avenue in New York City. I’m sure he would have agreed “A diamond is forever,” a De Beers slogan introduced during the Great Depression, a tough time to sell jewelry. Diamond engagement rings were uncommon then, but so were divorces. If “a marriage is forever”...
If your marriage is not everything you hoped it would be, the next 15 minutes could create a major improvement. Please note: this makeover is not for marriages experiencing violence, threats of violence, addictive behaviors, or current infidelity. Here are your instructions: Take 2 minutes to list your biggest disappointments about your marriage. Write them down the left side of a sheet of paper...
Frustration, anger, and fear normally drive us to either-or thinking. Too many of us who still love the person we married end up considering divorce because life with our spouse has become intolerable. Let me suggest a few alternatives that most of us never consider until it’s too late: 1. You’ll need two homes if you divorce. Why not get them now? You may find you really need only a...
