“We’re nothing more than roommates anymore.” “I don’t have any feelings left for you; you feel like nothing more than a roommate now.” It’s a dreadful place to get to. So empty. So full of regrets. And it happens to a lot of couples, so let’s talk about how it happens, how to avoid it, and how to recover from it. Here, in a nutshell, is how to avoid...
The folks at Your Tango recently claimed Sometimes Cheating Can Actually HELP Your Marriage. But they offered no data suggesting it ever has done so. Instead, they referred to a 2009 blog post by Michael J. Formica, M.S., M.A., Ed.M., a board certified counselor in Pennsylvania. With no data at all, Formica mused that a person might improve his or her marriage by recognizing he or she was in or...
“You’re cheating on me!” “No, I’m not! Don’t hit me! I’m not cheating on you!” “You’re leaving the house twice a day now. And staying out too long. How dare you? You’re driving me to drink and to protect myself.” “You’re an abuser! I’m going to my mother’s house and filing abuse charges.”...
Today, someone shared with me that her #1 fear is this: I will risk my relationship with my fiancé to benefit my career — or that I will take tradeoffs in my career to benefit my fiancé’s career and be bitter later. So many of us have been trained well in techniques to help us choose between Thing 1 and Thing 2, which is fine when you’re by your lonesome. But once you are part...
The challenges identified by divorced relationship columnist Anthony D’Ambrosio in The Asbury Park Press and reprinted in USA Today this week are really not very different from the challenges earlier generations have faced. Learn to deal with them, and you can enjoy being married, even now. Challenge #1: When we’re bombarded with “half-naked” photos online and compare our...
