Carolyn, a reader of this blog, has given me permission to reply to her two emails here. I asked because I think of lot of you are asking the same questions, as I was 30 years ago. One thing that bugs the heck out of me with many advice columns, and I say this as kind criticism, is that the remedy is always brought back to the woman. Absolutely true — except when the person doing the...
I keep reading that people are so afraid of divorce now that many choose not to marry. They practice serial monogamy instead, living together while they focus their attention on their own career, which they imagine will provide the security marriage failed to provide for their parents. Unfortunately, their odds (for wealth, well-being, or security) are not good. Neither are yours if you decide to...
Say you go to watch a taping of your favorite TV talk show. It’s exciting. You get to see the studio, the set, the crew, and your favorite host in person. It’s a treat. But this is what you expected when you signed up for the tickets. You might have hoped there would be a new car giveaway on your day, but you don’t really expect one. When you arrive, you learn that today’s...
Thanks to Gary Chapman’s bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages, lots of us are much more aware of our own. Mine is definitely gifts. But lately, I’ve been thinking about gifts. I am married to someone who doesn’t “get” gifts. Giving them feels like a test to him and receiving them often requires lying to someone he loves about the pleasure he’s not feeling...
I am trying to get caught up this week on all your recent comments and questions, dear readers. This is one that came in last week and really hit a nerve: I’ve been married for 15 yr, have three kids ages 4,8,12. I am seriously considering divorce. My husband is a compulsive liar with ADHD. He is a good/kind person but lies about anything from returning a book to the library to not paying...
