Joshua Rogers yesterday shared some excellent advice from Lula Rawls, who has been married for 67 years. He was seated next to this grandmother of the groom at a wedding rehearsal dinner five years ago and asked for her marriage advice. I love the depth of what she had to say. “You’ve got to remember that one of you will always be loving more.” Just in case that didn’t...
Which of these are you really good at? Trigonometry Skiing Making a souffle that doesn’t fall Sewing by hand Replacing a clutch Nature photography Throwing a birthday party Treating the injured at a car crash scene Throwing a curve ball Managing money Matching the perfect wine to a meal It wasn’t everything on the list, was it? So if you’ve screwed up your marriage or married...
If your wife spends less time making herself beautiful, does it mean she cares less about you? If she starts wearing nicer makeup, does it mean she’s cheating on you? Probably not. In research reported this month’s issue of Psychological Science, we learn that women choices in makeup vary with the testosterone levels in their saliva. We also know that overall interest in her...
Imagine a really unpleasant smell. Notice what your eyebrows do, how your eyes squint, how your nostrils close, and how your lips close or make that shape they make when you’re saying, “Ick.” Imagine stepping in something gross feeling on the bathroom floor in your socks. Check your eyebrows, your eyes, your nostrils, and your lips again. Imagine hearing an unfunny joke, the...
When your spouse is chronically ill, it affects you, too, in so many ways. Most of us notice this spillover effect. Your life gets harder — running more errands, doing more chores, coordinating health care, insuring a steady income, and limitations on travel and the strenuousness of what you can do together. It’s not an easy life, but it feels awful to complain, because no matter how...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
