When your husband or wife pulls back from your relationship, gets distracted by work or a hobby, or says, “I love you, but I am not in love with you,” that’s scary. Your lifestyle, your family, your home, your wealth, and your self-esteem may all feel on the line. And you may very well feel it’s unjustified, unfair. This makes you angry. You may even feel you have no...
Yesterday, I began a mini-series on how to tell if you’re correctly using my three favorite techniques for a happier marriage: Assume Love Expect Love Find Third Alternatives Expect Love is the second technique. There are two parts: (1) when someone promises to love you for the rest of your life, expect him or her to be trying most of the time to show you love, and (2) don’t drive off...
My three favorite techniques for a happier marriage are Assume Love Expect Love Find Third Alternatives I thought it might be interesting this week to do a short series on how to tell if you are doing them correctly. When you Assume Love, you are deliberately counteracting your default assumption. Because you are human, most sensory input first passes through a filter whose assumption is always...
My mother’s birthday is coming up shortly. Will you help me give her a great birthday gift? She started a blog about alternative medicine and old-time remedies this year, and she’s a really good writer, but she’s not yet getting many comments. Unless you write a blog, you may have no idea how great those comments feel. Comments that ask a question are better than double fudge...
Do you ever feel taken for granted? Do you long for a thank you? For more in return? Or maybe for some help with all your responsibilities? I know I do. And I know a bunch of other Boomer women who do. We grew up expecting we would be supported by a husband. Then we fought for the right to get a good education, to work at something jobs not open to our mothers. We worked at breaking those glass...
