Remember dating? One of the best parts was getting to know each other better. Whether you were dining out or waiting your turn at the bowling alley or miniature golf course, the best part was the talking. You needed no prompts. There was nothing more interesting than learning about this person you were falling in love with. Today, after a few years or decades of marriage, you may find that when...
What do you use as the benchmark for judging your marriage? I have two that work pretty well for me and one that I used to use and no longer will. Benchmark One – The Minimum Let’s start with the bare bones minimum benchmark: You have no reason to fear rape, broken bones, dislocated joints, bruises, pain, or uncensored angry or contemptuous words from your spouse. You have no reason...
Life falling into a rut? Finding yourself whining that you two don’t do much any more? Some simple tips for more fun: Invite or accept with enthusiasm. Mentally rehearse what could go right, not wrong. Give yourself time to shift gears before you go. Be fully present while you’re together. Watch for moments you want to remember. Savor the best parts of your time together later...
I am trying hard to post daily for the month of October. Today, there were so many comments to reply to that I’ve run out of day. Just a few minutes left. So here is my post of the day: I love each and every one of you who comments on this blog. I love it when you tell me something I said hit home. I love it when you ask me questions about your situation. I even love Arnie for pointing out...
If divorce is looking like a tempting option, I recommend you give it a try. But don’t start with a new sex partner or a new home. Start with a new you. One fellow interviewed for the Huffington Post’s section on divorce said the best thing about divorce was being able to have a beer with the guys after work. If you would, too, this is the place to start. Try not to come home drunk or...
