At the suggestion of a wonderful, caring reader, I added a new link to Assume Love this past weekend. Now you can receive Assume Love by email. Remember to watch for the confirmation email. If it shows up in your Junk folder, mark it as from an address you want to receive email from. Then be sure to click on the confirmation link in the email, so we know it was really you who entered your email...
Want to be a better person or have a better marriage in 2012? Some fascinating research may help you succeed. It sounds too simple to be true, but several studies have come to this same conclusion: it works! Think about what usually gets in the way of what you resolve to do. Now write down some very specific if-then solutions to these distractions. For example, If we have not had sex for four...
I know some of you are celebrating Christmas today (me, too!) and some of you are not. I am so grateful for every single one of you, whatever you are doing with this day. Thank you for reading what I have to say about marriage. Thank you for giving me the chance to just maybe bring some extra depth or delight to your marriage. No snow this year, just a cold, sunny day. Like yesterday, when I...
It’s not a Christmas tradition, not a Chanukah tradition, if you are the only one looking forward to it. Why not retire the worn out ones this year and try something new? If everyone looks forward to the new one next December, keep it. If not, keep experimenting. The great traditions are the ones that build excitement in advance and memories to savor after the holiday has passed, and there...
The news media love to declare the end of marriage. Yes, lots more of the over-18 crowd were married back in 1970. Now it is 51% (counting only opposite-sex marriages, per the federal definition of marriage). Should you feel less in the mainstream if you are married? Hardly. Thirty seven percent of Americans over the age of 18 have been married to the same person for at least the last 10 years...
