This is a guest post written for Assume Love by Elizabeth H. Cottrell. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 39th anniversary. In case you haven’t already covered these “secrets,” I share them now: Listen to each other — REALLY listen, and confirm that you’ve heard by saying it back, “So, am I understanding that what you mean is…?” Physical...
Biggest Lesson Learned from 9/11
It was a trending hashtag on Twitter this weekend. My biggest lesson had a lot to do with marriage and family:
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Patty Newbold
#biggestlessonlearnedfrom911 Our excuses for not making time for others are lame. We all CAN drop everything to do what matters.
Not Enough Sex? Look for a Third Alternative
It happens in a lot of marriages. One spouse starts saying no to sex so often that the other stops asking. Or, worse, that partner begins demanding, whining, or insulting. a huge turnoff that seldom leads to a blissful intimate moment. What’s the solution? Surely it is not the remedy doled out by a French judge this week, ruling that the uninterested spouse pay the other more than $14,000...
What to Do When You Stop Loving
Last March, I answered this question on Quora: If you are married with a kid, but you and your wife do not love each other, what should you do? My answer: Love your kid’s mother. It’s the greatest gift you could ever give your child. Regardless of your emotions toward her, be as generous, forgiving, caring, brave, fair, trustworthy, nurturing, helpful, complimentary, and welcoming as...
Is Financial Irresponsibility Grounds for Divorce?
A reader asks how to help a newlywed friend. She’s paying the bills, keeping careful track, budgeting for every predictable expense. He’s running up unexpected bills, failing to warn her what they will owe this month or to turn over needed paperwork on time. And it’s drowning her in distress. Can this marriage be saved? Can she live with a man like this? Of course she can. How...