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The Need to be Appreciated

Do you ever find yourself wondering whether your husband, wife, or life partner appreciates your efforts ? Do you ever get angry, wanting some gratitude for all you do? Me, too.

It's human. And it's manipulative. And it has a funny boomerang effect of making it harder to appreciate you. If you feel underappreciated, do less. Free yourself to be loved and appreciated for who you are instead of what you do. And when you feel good again about the relationship, do the things that make you feel loving and giving and generous and compassionate, because you are already appreciated before you do them.


Thanks for a month of thought provoking posts.

It was my pleasure, Jane! Thanks for the feedback. It's always easier to write with readers like you in mind.

What a simple way to get things back into perspective about being appreciated. Thanks, Patty.

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