3 Things to Remember When Marriage Seems Hard
Think there's something terribly wrong with your non-abusive marriage? Change that thought before it ruins a perfectly good day.
- Divorce does not magically make money troubles go away. In fact, it usually increases your total expenses and makes it harder to earn what you earn. Marriage counseling also costs money and doesn't make more for you. And you don't need to divorce to stop enabling a spouse with an addiction to spending or gambling money you earn. If you've got a money problem, it's not a marriage problem.
- Developing any one strength means developing less of another strength. If your spouse has too little of some strength you value (sustaining a loving relationship, courage, integrity, creativity, optimism, perseverance, modesty, teamwork, gratitude, generosity, whatever), there's another strength you're not noticing. Use your own strengths to give yourself whatever is missing and enjoy what you're getting.
- Neither sex nor conversation become more enticing when you talk about their absence. Change the timing. Change the subject. Change the foreplay. Change the setting. You're the one with the motivation, which makes you the perfect choice to start the change.