That is what many people say when their marriages die. Every day, you have a choice. Grow together or grow apart. If you would like to grow together, find new things to do together that use the top strengths each of you brings to the marriage. Have you tried cooking classes? An internet business? A garden? Building a canoe? Hiking the Appalachian Trail? Backpacking across China? Buying a pair of...
I don’t often watch basketball. Neither does my husband. But my alma mater is in the NCAA Division III Final Four tonight. I think it’s worth noting. It’s the first time in the Final Four in the team’s 112-year history. MIT’s Engineers entered tonight’s game with a 13-game winning streak. Two more will win them the championship. They are tied at the half. I...
Judging by the amount of media space they get, we all want to read about celebrity divorces. How is it that they find a beautiful, highly successful spouse and throw the wedding of their dreams (and ours) but cannot stand each other for even as long as we less famous folk do? John Tierney and Garth Sundern have been working on this conundrum. In 2006, they published a formula for predicting the...
Today, the daffodils in my front yard bloomed. So did the hillside of daffodils at the home of a friend well west of me. She called to tell me. Daffodils bloomed well east of me in New Jersey today. My artist friend posted a photo online. It is a gorgeous day, with a light breeze and a temperature more often enjoyed in May than four days before St. Patrick’s Day. I left my car at the Post...
The following is a comment I received today in reply to my 3 Ways to Get Your Wife’s Respect post on October 18, 2011. It is a classic situation, and I suspect the answer may help more than Drew, who left the comment. I made several mistakes during a one year period over seven years ago. Since I have been a model man and model father, she even gets ro stay home if she chooses. Now, after 7+...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
