If your otherwise loving marriage has been a bit disappointing lately, try this: share wishes, not complaints. A wish is an opportunity for your spouse to earn that delicious feeling of acting lovingly, knowing it will be received well. You get no guarantee that they’ll notice the opportunity or act on it, because you might not be the only partner nursing a disappointment. But it’s...
Snarky comments about your wife or husband never make a marriage happier or stronger…not even if you share them only with your friends.
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Does it drive you bonkers that your husband never runs the vacuum cleaner just because it needs doing? Are you annoyed to tears when he steps over a bit of sock lint on the floor without picking it up? Do you start pondering divorce when he sticks flowers in a vase without first dusting out the inside of the vase? Are you furious if your husband brings home the wrong brand of diced tomatoes when...
You know how you start thinking you’re doing the bulk of the chores? Or that you’re stuck with way too many on top of your exhausting paid job? You are not alone. Most wives feel this way. And so do most husbands. How can this be? Surely one of us is trying to put something over on the other. Surely one of us needs to pick up the pace a bit and relieve our mate, no? Not really. Even...
This, in a nutshell, is the Assume Love philosophy: put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. In other words, don’t work on your relationship. Help yourself enjoy being married. What you do for your relationship when you enjoy it will never feel like work. Save your ideas for making your spouse a better husband or wife until you have fully opened yourself to receive the love...
