When you get really angry about the way your husband or wife treats you, what do you do? Do you yell or throw something, then kiss and make up later? This is not assuming love. Do you keep your anger to yourself, giving your mate the benefit of the doubt, letting it pass, but not exactly letting it go, because you are loved? This is not assuming love, either. It is what I call pretending love...
In today’s Dear Abby column, a reader writes: Every time I start to get over Guy, he comes around again. It’s like he has radar. In this case, Guy is a married man, but that’s the result, not the cause. If you are looking to get married and running into people like Guy, or if you are in Guy’s situation of being unable to choose, you need to know this. Some folks have a...
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Seth Godin says this morning to his huge tribe of business owners and marketers: “The next time you’re sure someone is angry with you, perhaps it’s worth considering that you might be mistaken.” It is, whether it’s a business contact or a spouse. But how do you tell if you’re mistaken? You start from an assumption about the person and test their behavior...
Tom Papa, “The Marriage Ref” on Jerry Seinfeld’s show by this name, is definitely no marriage educator. He’s a comedian, and a lot funnier than I will ever be. So he’s going to make jokes about marriage issues. And I am going to ask, “How could these people enjoy being married a bit more?” Earlier, I talked about the folks on the teaser episode who argued...
