The New York Times published an article yesterday titled For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage. It’s a wonderful thing that women can now support themselves and their children. I know this firsthand, as I became a single mom at 34, when my first husband died. I was in no shape to remarry just to support myself and our son, and I did not want to place this burden on my...
Thinking of getting married? Probably the least useful thing to learn about him or her is how well you share a bathroom or kitchen. Here are some more useful things to find out. What is his or her Love Language? How comfortable are you using it? What are his or her 4 or 5 top Character Strengths? Encouraging the use of these strengths in work and play will provide lots of opportunities for...
There are three ways to ask for what you need from your husband or wife. The first is the plain vanilla wafer approach. “It drives me nuts to open the kitchen cabinets and see that mess in there. Will you please clean them today?” The second in the chocolate chunk granola with cranberries and macadamias approach. Who knows which part of the request to pay attention to? “My...
At some point in your marriage, perhaps many points, your wife or husband will feel hurt and withdraw from you. More than likely, you will feel miserable, either because you hate to see your beloved in such pain or because you feel unjustly accused. The last thing you want at this point is an ineffective apology. It will make both of you feel worse. Here are three big mistakes to avoid when you...
Valentine’s Day has had a new and special meaning for me since 2006. It’s the day I launched this blog and began offering hope of a happier marriage to anyone who wants it. Today is our sixth anniversary together. Thanks for a great time and for all your marvelous stories of success at remaking your marriages. It’s also Valentine’s Day, so I think that’s all I will...
