One of the most delicious things about being a wife is learning from spending so much time with someone whose strengths are different from mine. Here are three I have learned from my second husband, Ed: In just 48 hours, the tomorrow I’m busy fearing today will be the yesterday I have no time to think about. Multitasking is much less sexy and joy-producing than being focused on one thing...
I just noticed that it’s been more than a month since I added to my Why Be Married series. There are so many great reasons. Today, one that’s close to my heart, as my first husband died without warning at the very young age of 35. Respect is a very good reason to be married to the person you love: The respect you receive as a husband or wife if your mate is in a car accident, a fall...
It seems a lot of people get married and then wonder if they married the wrong person. If you are still single and looking, you might wonder how to avoid marrying the wrong person, too. The right person never uses force or emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants from you. The right person, like all the wrong people, is not likely to change in the ways you imagine or plan. If...
Yesterday, in Part 4 of this series on how to explain a loving spouse doing something that upsets you, I wrote: “I am not talking here about pushing, shoving, hitting, cutting, damaging something especially dear to you, making remarks known to bring you to tears or render you helpless, or repeating angry outbursts or making threats until you fear being in the same room as your mate.”...
When you Assume Love, you try to explain how a loving person might come to do whatever your wife, husband, or life partner just did that upset you so. This series offers some tips to help when you just cannot get beyond, “It’s awful, I hate it, it must be intentional meanness.” First, we looked at Love Languages. Next, we looked at genetic differences in our ability to read each...
