Are you good at teamwork? Do you communicate goals and strategies well? Do you dig in and do whatever needs doing? Can you take direction as well as giving it? Do you enjoy a job well done even more when you share the glory with others? Guess what? Not everyone does. Some love to be a star. Others can’t imagine that there might be some other goal or strategy than they one they are dutifully...
There are so many times when we believe the person we committed our life to should do something but doesn’t. It happens even in the best of marriages. After Brenda bought Christmas gifts for all of Gary’s nieces and nephews, she was dumbfounded that he refused to even accompany her to her cousin’s caroling party. When Gillian grew up, all the men in the neighborhood raked leaves...
I have a great book to recommend to you if you’re trying to Assume Love and enjoy your marriage more. I was reading a post on Scott and Jenni’s Surrendered Marriage blog about assuming love this week, and one of the comments mentioned it. The commenter is another marriage blogger, Sojourner, writing the Not Easily Broken blog. The book is The Art of Possibility by Ben and Rose Zander...
On Tuesday, I revealed a problem sent in by a reader and asked for suggestions from all of you. As she sees it, and I must agree, the problem is how they address their disagreements. Neither is happy with their approach. As an example of the sort of disagreements they are addressing, she offered one spouse asking the other not to interrupt when the other is speaking slowly. As it turns out, this...
If you think there are problems in your marriage, you are probably right. Unless the problems are out of your control and threatening your wellbeing, you won’t move toward a solution by announcing there are problems. Instead, move closer. Look for things to love and admire about your spouse. Take a few extra seconds with your kisses, your compliments, and your thank yous. All three will...
