Looking for a different idea for Date Night with your husband or wife? How about a visit to Old Town? Lots of places have one. Lompoc, California’s Old Town includes a one-room school house, a building made of diatomaceous earth, and Sissy’s Cafe, where you can stop for a wine tasting if you make it a midday date night. Albuquerque, New Mexico’s Old Town offers a special End of...
CJ, half of the husband-wife team who write The Great Jolly Hoombah blog (2017 update: sadly no longer online, so I have removed all links to it), hit me with an intriguing comment recently. He said the idea of owning your own needs in a marriage is “counter-intuitive.” He wrote, “Owning our own needs in a culture so thoroughly enabled to do the very opposite is a tall order...
What would you miss most about your partner in life if he or she were in a coma? Her income? His cooking? The gentle touch of a hand on your cheek? The “I love you” every morning? The orgasms? The wise advice when you don’t know what to do? The playfulness when you take yourself too seriously? If you were keeping a journal in hope of someday soon sharing your thoughts during...
‘Tis the season for gift ideas. Some are clever and fun to read. Few actually help with gift-giving. Why? Because your spouse is a unique individual, not a category, and so are you. Let’s start with attitudes toward receiving gifts. For some, all gifts feel like they come with strings attached. They create an obligation instead of delivering a message of love. The underlying beliefs...
A married woman on Quora wondered about this a few months back. She married her husband while both were in college. Today, in his 30s, he’s got a good bit of money, success, and younger women who would like to “bag” him. They have no kids to tie him to her, and she wonders what would make him stay. Here are a few things men stay for. Each one suggests a possible strategy for...
