What’s the worst that can happen to your marriage? I think it is a build-up of resentment. It is next-to-impossible to show love to someone when you resent what they’ve done or not done. Even if you try, your actions will be suspect. Your body language will give you away. Resentment is what allows the thought process that justifies emotional affairs, infidelity, and deliberate...
All is takes a little pessimism or resentment to hang a cloud over your marriage. The cloud can get you wondering if it’s worth sticking around. Want to know just how easy it is to change that? Watch this video.
[Thanks to my cousin Don for the link and the joy.]
Let’s kick off this brand new year with a comment on the most frequent objection to my advice to Assume Love from your spouse or life partner. Assume Love triggers a warning phrase we’ve heard many times: never assume. And why does it trigger it so easily in so many of us? Because our default assumption as humans is that at any moment, we may be in danger. We take warnings to heart...
Following up on yesterday’s blog post about what we should and shouldn’t withhold from our spouses, I received a question: [D]o you kiss and hug someone with whom you don’t feel close and by whom you don’t feel loved?…Kiss and hope you’ll eventually feel it? Hug and enjoy feeling close to he who talks to you through gritted teeth? This is a great question. I...
I was asked recently about withholding hugs and kisses to encourage a husband to be more loving. I don’t think it works, and I sure don’t think it would be much fun. Why sculpt the marriage you want by manipulating the person you love? Or by avoiding what makes your marriage enjoyable to you? What should we withhold? That which we will later regret, like knee-jerk responses to words...
