Assume Love is one of 45 finalists for the Marry Blogger Top 10 Marriage Blogs of 2010 list. Voting continues through December 14th. While I hope your vote will go to Assume Love (#37 on the list), you may want to check out the rest of the finalists, too. Some of my other favorites include: Project Happily Ever After, the story of Alisa Bowman, who was almost out the door when she found her way...
Which of these would you most appreciate from your husband or wife?
An hour-long massage
A dreaded chore done for you
A gift to use in one of your hobbies
A very special date night together
A heartfelt love letter or song
Better communication seems to occur in less stressful marriages. But are you sure which one causes which? Those couples who communicate better experience less stress (as measured by cortisol in their saliva) while discussing a difficult topic. But when you give randomly selected couples a squirt of oxytocin nasal spray in a relationship lab, they communicate better than the couples who...
“‘Don’t wait until your kids leave home to schedule quality time with your partner,’ said UC Berkeley psychology professor Oliver John” in today’s UC Berkeley News. He and fellow researchers Ravenna Helson and Sara Gorchoff conducted interviews with 100 women starting when they were seniors at Mills College in 1958. They might also have added...
Here’s a great quote from Jim Collins’ book Good to Great that applies even more to marriages than to the businesses he writes about: “Get involved in something that you care so much about that you want to make it the greatest it can possibly be, not because of what you will get, but just because it can be done.” Most of us start out this way, vowing to keep at it through...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
