Many husbands and wives stand convinced they do not get a fair deal in their marriages. What do you think? “It is not fair that I work hard to earn all our income but I cannot unwind for the thirty minutes before dinner when I get home, because the kids have all have dirty faces and sticky hands and want lots of attention.” I know how to convert euros to dollars. How do you convert...
Today I thought I would share three ways to make your husband easier to love. Can I stop with just three? I must, or what will I write about tomorrow? OK, here goes: The next time you get upset at whiskers on the sink or socks on the floor or crumbs in the den, check the clock. When your unhappy or angry feelings finally subside, check it again. Now measure how quickly you can clean up his mess...
Know that joke about looking under the street lamp for keys you dropped elsewhere, because the light is better? One of the great things I learned by helping with the research into character strengths and well-being is where else to look when I am not seeing my husband’s strengths. Let me share a few with you. Upset with shortcomings in modesty or authenticity? Look for how much optimism...
A new study of commitment in the first 11 years of marriage confirms something I have long believed. “The psychologists recommend against ‘bank-account relationships,’ in which you keep score of how often you get your way and how often you compromise.” They looked at the results of two types of commitment at the start of these 172 marriages: “I really like this...
You probably already know what drives me to write this blog and teach my teleclasses. Just in case you don’t, it was getting exactly what I thought I wanted 25 years ago, when my resentment outweighed my love for the man I married, the father of our son. I write and speak to stop you from going after what I thought I wanted. First I wanted him to change. I wanted a fairer division of chores...
