The slow and uncertain route to a happy marriage looks like this: Do the things a good wife or a good husband should do. Make sure your spouse knows what you expect him or her to do. Schedule time to talk about your distress when you’re unhappy. If things get tense, make sure you protect your assets and your feelings, just in case there’s a divorce. Always check whether your friend or...
I am a big fan of the Thumbshots website, where you can see how one search engine’s site rankings compare with those from another search engine for the same term. Imagine if we had the same thing for our different takes on how loving an act is. The top row here is Google, the bottom Bing, for a search for sites about a particular keyword. But let us imagine the top is me and the bottom is...
You and your mother-in-law want the same thing. You want the best for the man or woman you married. You also want to feel loved by this same man or woman. Your relationship with this person goes sour when you disagree on what is best and believe only one of you can be right. And it makes you miserable when you believe your mate has only a little love to go around and you must compete for it. Want...
This is gift week for anyone who observes Christmas or Hanukkah. Time to give gifts and receive gifts. It is a week filled with joy, annoyance, and outrage. It is the thought that counts, sort of. The problem lies in whose thought counts. Recipients invent a story about the giver’s thoughts. If you are a recipient, and if your spouse is the giver, you might want to prepare yourself to...
You have been working a brutal schedule, and you expect a little extra help from your mate. After all, you both benefit from the overtime or the raise that comes from your efforts. However, it’s dinner time, and nothing is ready to eat. What do you do? You can focus on the work. You do more. She should do more. Doing less? Unfair! You are mistreated. You deserve better! She has no respect...
