When you’re upset about any other part of life with your husband, wife, or life partner, it’s likely you will start noticing your differences, too. How compatible do you need to be to keep the relationship going? Compatibility has two sides: propriety and enthusiasms. Marry someone whose ideas of what’s proper and what’s not differ wildly from yours and you’ll...
“I don’t love you anymore.” Those are really tough words to hear. Laura A. Munson’s response to them is must-read stuff for anyone whose once-great marriage has hit a rocky patch in the road. Munson’s article in the NY Times is a great read. While she came to it down a different path, what she did is assume love. She asked herself why her husband would say those...
Any stressful event, like moving, a child’s illness, or a visit from relatives you don’t both adore, provides plenty of opportunities for getting angry at your mate or sulking in resentment. “Where are my keys?” you roar. Your partner sits in silence, unmoved. You expected help finding them. You’re late, and you’re under incredible stress, and a little help...
Tit for tat may make you happier for the moment, but always at the expense of your relationship. Falling in love made your heart sing, not because of what your beloved offered you, but because it made you want to offer so much more.
Happy Valentine’s day! Be generous.
And thanks for three great years so far. Here’s a post from that first Valentine’s Day in 2006.
Want to hear more about how to Assume Love, Expect Love, and Find Third Alternatives? Listen to this podcast, in which I was interviewed by Lee Rosen of Stay Happily Married.
Hats off to Lee for doing so much to discourage business for his North Carolina divorce law practice, and for being a great interviewer.
