The marvelous Pam Slim, author of Escape from Cubicle Nation writes today about divorce through a child’s eyes. Pam is the mother of an adorable five-year-old now. Check out the photo of Pam at that same age, just before her father decided to find himself, minus the wife and kid, and how long it took Pam to find herself again as a consequence.
She doesn’t mention if her father ever found himself, or whether what he eventually found was actually less than who he had been while keeping his commitment to the woman he married and the child he fathered.
Pam’s post is part of Hugh McLeod‘s Remember Who You Are series. Life with other people gets difficult at times. It’s tempting to think if we offload those other people, life will get better. This is true only when we are in the clutches of someone dangerous, and none of us is dumb enough to leave children behind then.
Better to remember who we are. We are not just frustrated or confused or uhappy. We are also forgiving, compassionate, fair, and the product of all the memories we share with those other people and all the promises we have made to them. Capable of growth. And able to reach out to others for help growing in a new direction.
My April 28th teleclass is all about Finding More Love in the Same Old Marriage. Join us if a temporary marriage is not what you had in mind.
The Temporary Marriage, through a Child’s Eyes
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