Praise Makes Us Brave
Barbara Sher, author of I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was and several other wonderful books, says this frequently.
Praise makes us brave.
Want to nudge your partner to tackle a big project or make a challenging change? Praise gives a much bigger nudge than criticism does.
Oh, how I have to remind myself of this, often in mid-criticism. I give myself a pat on the back for remembering and changing course.
Want your partner to praise you more and criticize you less? Ask for it. Avoid implying your mate ought to fix a deficiency. Instead, praise some of the other ways he or she has met your needs and lifted you up. People who don't normally praise probably don't feel comfortable dishing it out. It will take a stretch for your mate. But praise makes us brave.