On the brink of throwing in the towel and filing for divorce? Diane Sollee of Smart Marriages (website of the Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education) has a page on what to expect and what else to try first. I highly recommend it.
If,instead, your spouse is proposing divorce, she has another great page of resources for fighting a divorce.
There are some irreparable marriages out there, but not as many as we believe when we are in the middle of an unbearable situation or an overwhelming urge to just start over. I have been there. I know the pain. And I know how very hard it is to find a way to stop that pain without some new ideas from those who understand it. If you’re there, check out the Smart Marriages resources. The first two alternatives of this pain and the different pain of divorce are usually just two of many. Find the Third Alternative.
If You Think You Can’t Go On Being Married
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Sooner or later, every married couple will go through difficult times. Unfortunately, popular culture seems to encourage us to view divorce as an easy and acceptable alternative to working things out. But in reality, divorce is rarely simple and usually quite painful. Most problems can be solved as long as we are willing to try.