I received a lengthy comment today from a reader dealing with her husband’s viewing of porn on the internet. I suggested looking up Mark Laaser, Phd, who has written some helpful stuff on the subject after finding himself getting sucked into it. One of his books is The Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction..You can see him in this Smart Marriages 2010...
Do you have a list of things you are not getting from your husband? I did, right before my first marriage came to a crashing halt. I had a long list. It was the list of a married woman. Single women have a different sort of list. They pay their bills, clean their bathrooms, shop for clothes, even raise children without a husband. What’s on their list? Love. Someone to know them. Someone to...
When married life is frustrating, divorce can seem like the only way out. But it is well worth asking, “Will divorce fix the problem?” One celebrity reporter, certain that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith are on their way to divorce, writes in The Daily Beast: Sources close to the power couple say both Will and his actress wife have strong personalities that have clashed one too many...
I love that jingle: “What would you do for a Klondike bar?” As kids, we did all sorts of crazy things for the smallest of prizes. Better yet, we challenged each other to do things for a prize. Play is how children build the skills they need to survive life’s scarier moments. Play feels like fun to make sure they will engage in it. As a couple, we need to play together, too. It...
Would a stranger observing the two of you call your marriage loud or quiet? Loud is just fine if every angry outburst is matched with at least five exuberant or encouraging ones. How can you go from angry to encouraging? Assume Love. Quiet is just fine if it’s shared intimacy and respect, rather than passive-aggressive resentment. How can you go from hurt to grateful? Expect Love. And how...
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
