Does one of you worry more than the other? Ever wonder what you could do about this? All that extra worrying gets to be pretty annoying to the one who thinks there is nothing to worry about. And all that nonchalance just gives the worrier more to worry about. Treat it like any difference of opinion and shoot for a Third Alternative. To find one, you first need to let go of your original positions...
Some folks cheat on their wife or their husband to put one over on them, to win at some game of deception. They might get more sex, but they lose intimacy. You cannot feel close to someone you treat as your opponent. You cannot feel known by someone you must lie to. You cannot have a close relationship and one on the side. Some folks cheat because they feel they deserve it. They continue to...
So many of the folks who have figured out the secret to fame and fortune cannot figure out how to stay married. Olivia Wilde eloped with her Italian prince at age 19, but she was divorced in 2011 after just eight years together. Elizabeth Hurley’s second marriage, to Arun Nayar, also ended in 2011. It lasted only four years. Fred Armisen and Elisabeth Moss lasted only 16 months. They were...
I want to take a moment today to thank you for reading Assume Love. It has been a great year, with a big increase in the number of posts per month and another Top Ten award from Stupendous Marriage.
Wishing you and your marriage a wonderful 2012, full of shared moments, intimate communication, and gratitude for all the love you receive.
Lots of love,
Patty Newbold
I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.
