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Today, I want to tackle another of Tammy Blankenship's challenging questions about assuming love.

My husband has gotten better in the past 10 years, but I can't seem to forget about what an ass he was when we first got married. How do I know he won't revert back into the jackass he was?

You don't. You can't. You can Assume Love and verify for yourself that he's behaving like a loving spouse today, thereby opening your heart to receive all the love he has to offer you and reflecting back to him gratitude, caring, and respect -- or you can refuse to receive all of the love you're offered today and reflect back suspicion and distrust.

Assuming love doesn't mean pretending you're loved, so you'll instantly spot a non-loving act and know what to do with it. In the meantime, why deny yourself the joy of being loved?

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